People who are reading this blog may be wondering about the author, me. So I guess I should write a post about me right?
Two years ago I was asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding. The bride also invited me to join "WeddingBook" on facebook. So I did. Having never been in a wedding before, I didn't know much about what they were all about but I was interested. This is where stalking the WB forums comes in. These brides over-share about everything! Almost all of them use their full REAL names on this very PUBLIC forum! You can google someone's name and read all of the posts they have written on WB! Sometimes I wonder if the girls that really fight with everyone or the girls that get picked on all of the time ever have problems with the other girls tracking them down and harassing them. I would be scared that something I posted could be taken as offensive and before I knew it a gang of stressed out crazy brides would be at my door to beat me up and throw my computer out the window! I'm serious. Some of the WBers seem to really hate each other. Most of the WBers seem pretty laid back though. So if you use WB continue using it so I can continue to forum stalk.
So needless to say I do use facebook, but I never post on WB! However, I do read WB a lot! It is addicting like a reality TV show. You get to know people who post a lot, even though they have no idea you exist. Then you keep coming back to watch the main "characters." It is hard to remember they are actually real people sometimes. I also really like looking at all of the wedding ideas, but I'm not even engaged yet!
So why the blog? Well like I said before I don't post on WB. Instead, I just read it. So sometimes I want to comment on a post or chat with others about it anonymously, even though sometimes I think a blog is too public too. I also think some of the ideas are great and should be viewed by more than just people who have facebook. Plus, I feel weird sharing all of these wedding ideas with my friends because I am not even close to getting engaged. It is embarrassing how into weddings I am.Hence the blog.
11/13/10
11/12/10
Parade Rained On OR Just Bragging?
Hey WB fans!
Just saw this post today and had to share. This WBer feels like everyone with a smaller budget than her is raining on her parade. Some background: This WBer also started a post to share/compare the size and price of WBers engagement rings...
You guessed it! This thread blew up and after 126 posts the moderators shut it down. Read the thread HERE. Since the topic is closed you can continue the conversation here in the comments of this post.
The original post reads:
... but I really need to get this off my chest.
I'm noticing a lot that when women talk about how their E-rings were expensive, or that their budget is kind of high, they're being ridiculed for it. People say things like "I can't believe you're spending so much on something so silly and impractical" or "That's stupid" and the like. For example, a gf of mine asked how much my ring was and i told her, that it's somewhere in the ball park of $8000. Her eyes got really big, and she said "Oh my god. What in the world are you spending on the wedding?" I told her we budgeted around $25-30,000. The next response was "That's so ridiculous ... you can have a wedding for so much less than that." I don't understand the double standard. This same girlfriend has a wedding budget of $5000. I would be ridiculed for being insensitive, materialistic, rude, and condescending (amongst other things) if I told her "There's no way you could have an elegant wedding on just $5000, are you crazy?" or something similar.
So my questions to you are:
Have any of you with larger budgets or more expensive engagement rings run into this same thing?
How have you responded?
Why do you think girls with smaller budgets and less elaborate rings are raining on our parade?
Why is this behavior acceptable? And why is it completely unacceptable in the other direction?
EDIT: This is not a process thread. I'm referencing things I've experienced in person, not on FB.
Original WB Post: http://apps.facebook.com/wedsnap_wedding/forums/topic/75193/might-be-stepping-on-some-wb-toes/
Chime In: How would you answer this WBers questions? What do you think this WBer is all about? Is she trying to just brag about her wedding and throw numbers around? Is she trying to figure out which WBers she wants to be friends with based on their wedding budget opinions?
Just saw this post today and had to share. This WBer feels like everyone with a smaller budget than her is raining on her parade. Some background: This WBer also started a post to share/compare the size and price of WBers engagement rings...
You guessed it! This thread blew up and after 126 posts the moderators shut it down. Read the thread HERE. Since the topic is closed you can continue the conversation here in the comments of this post.
The original post reads:
... but I really need to get this off my chest.
I'm noticing a lot that when women talk about how their E-rings were expensive, or that their budget is kind of high, they're being ridiculed for it. People say things like "I can't believe you're spending so much on something so silly and impractical" or "That's stupid" and the like. For example, a gf of mine asked how much my ring was and i told her, that it's somewhere in the ball park of $8000. Her eyes got really big, and she said "Oh my god. What in the world are you spending on the wedding?" I told her we budgeted around $25-30,000. The next response was "That's so ridiculous ... you can have a wedding for so much less than that." I don't understand the double standard. This same girlfriend has a wedding budget of $5000. I would be ridiculed for being insensitive, materialistic, rude, and condescending (amongst other things) if I told her "There's no way you could have an elegant wedding on just $5000, are you crazy?" or something similar.
So my questions to you are:
Have any of you with larger budgets or more expensive engagement rings run into this same thing?
How have you responded?
Why do you think girls with smaller budgets and less elaborate rings are raining on our parade?
Why is this behavior acceptable? And why is it completely unacceptable in the other direction?
EDIT: This is not a process thread. I'm referencing things I've experienced in person, not on FB.
Original WB Post: http://apps.facebook.com/wedsnap_wedding/forums/topic/75193/might-be-stepping-on-some-wb-toes/
Chime In: How would you answer this WBers questions? What do you think this WBer is all about? Is she trying to just brag about her wedding and throw numbers around? Is she trying to figure out which WBers she wants to be friends with based on their wedding budget opinions?
10/21/10
Reception Table Names
Yesterday someone on WB started a thread about creative table names, instead of just numbering them.
OP: Other than numbering the guest tables... what are some other ways you are organizing your tables! I hear things like pet names, states, pictures...
Replies:
Chime In: Have you ever been to a wedding that didn't have conventional table names/numbers? Are you having creative table names at your wedding? Do you have any ideas to add?
OP: Other than numbering the guest tables... what are some other ways you are organizing your tables! I hear things like pet names, states, pictures...
Replies:
- We are either going to do places that are special to us or names of Nascar speedways (since we are avid race fans and he races at our local track)
- The words Love or Marriage in different languages. Or words that are based on love/marriage eg. forever, happiness. always, future, hope, everlasting etc
- We are using song titles that will be for sure played throughout the night - songs that we love or have some sort of meaning to us.
- We also did song titles, and since we had a buffet the dj played clips from the songs to dismiss the tables. The dj picked out all the song titles (all love songs) so we didn't have to do that work
- i heard of someone doing famous composers once
- We are getting married in the Adirondack Park here in New York State (upstate in the mountains not NYC) and we are going to use the name of some of the high peaks.
- Our wedding is a wine theme and I considered different wine but I'm going with numbers.
- were thinking of doing places/dates that we've been on then at the table will have a little story about it... for example one table name will be "Castle Fun Park" then at the table it will have in big letters "Castle Fun Park" then a little blurb underneath it explaining how that was the place we went mini golfing at for our first date. special places like that.
- we are huge baseball fans so we are using the names of different baseball parks for table names
Chime In: Have you ever been to a wedding that didn't have conventional table names/numbers? Are you having creative table names at your wedding? Do you have any ideas to add?
10/19/10
DIY Head Band
Today on WB someone posted this great DIY headband. Check it out:
Chime In: Have you done any wedding DIY projects?
Current Do Not Play List (DNP)
Lots of brides give their DJ a "do not play list." Here are some songs on current bride's lists:
Chime In: Do you have a do not play list for your wedding? Why or why not? What songs are on it?
- "Wind Beneath My Wings" - Bette Midler
"I Will Always Love You" - Whitney Houston / Dolly Parton
"You Are So Beautiful" - Joe Cocker
"Lady in Red" - Chris DeBurgh
"Glory of Love" - Peter Cetera
"YMCA" - Village People
"Candle in the Wind"
"Gold Digger" - Kanye West
"She's Having My Baby" - Paul Anka
"Another One Bites the Dust" - Queen
"Like a Virgin" - Madonna
"Groovy Kind of Love" - Phil Collins
"This is the End" - The Doors
"Suspicious Minds" - Elvis Presley
"What's Love Got To Do With It?" - Tina Turner
"My Best Friend's Girl" - The Cars
"Macarena" - Los del Río
"Hotel California" - The Eagles
"My Heart Will Go On" - Celine Dion
"Jesse's Girl" - Rick Springfield
"The Chicken Dance" - Werner Thomas
"Have I Told You Lately" - Rod Stewart
"Unchained Melody" - Righteous Brothers
Anything by Chicago, Journey, or Coldplay
And any of the thousand versions of "At Last"
Noooo "Locomotion"- if someone steps on my dress, there will be hell to pay- I'll show you bridezilla lol
"Hokey Pokey"
"Halo" Beyonce- my personal gag-me song
Most of Britney Spears' stuff
Love Stinks, You Gave Love A Bad Name, Tainted Love, et cetera - shake your groove thing by the chipmunks
- the chicken dance locomotion macarana or anyother chessy weding song
- No Abba and no Elvis Presley no offence to fans
- no Lady Gaga, Justin Beiber, Hannah Montana, along with all those cheesy dances.
- the electric slide or any group dance
- "I've got a feelin'" by the Black Eyed Peas
- Heya by outcast
- no bon jovi elvis or queen
- chicken dance
cha cha/electric slide
macarena
songs about "gettin busy"
Pu$$y control (that Prince song tends to offend the older crowd, lol!)
Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana (I had to put both because I dislike her THAT much!)
Justin Bieber
Songs about tractors ("She's thinks my tractor's sexy" or "My big green tractor")
Nickelback - Barbie girl
- Absolutely, positively NO LADY GAGA
- Birdie song The Tweets
Shout Lulu
Superman
Agadoo
Wig Wam Bam and any other rubbish song by Black Lace - anything Lady Gaga, Justin Beiber
- -No songs with choreographed dances/instructions in the song (YMCA, Chicken Dance, Cha Cha/Electric Slide); after talking to the DJ, it turns out no one requested any of them anyway
-No rap - - no group dances
- no cheesy/sappy/mushy songs
- no breakup songs
- no country
and only rap songs that we picked! - -"Don't Stop Believing" by Journey
-"Thriller" by Micheal Jackson - No chicken dance or hokey pokey
- Ive got a feeling or any recent BEP songs
Chime In: Do you have a do not play list for your wedding? Why or why not? What songs are on it?
Etsy
Lots of ladies on weddingbook buy wedding items on Etsy.com. Here are some of their Etsy finds:
Bridesmaid Tote (Source)
Rhinestone Bouquet Cuff (Source)
Flowers for JR. Bridesmaids Shoes (Source)
Cards used to ask girls to be in bridal party (Source)
Garter (Source)
Handmade Rhinestone wedding bouquet jewelry (Source)
Custom made eyeshadow (Source)
Garter (Source)
Garter (Source)
Red petticoat (Source)
Custom Invitation (Source)
Pompoms (Source)
Favor tags (Source)
Custom stamp (Source)
Custom "Do not disturb" sign (Source)
Earrings (Source)
Personalized Pocket Mirrors for bridesmaids (Source)
Personalized Thank you cards for bridesmaids (Source)
Memorial Bouquet Charm (Source)
MOH gift (Source)
MOH gift (Source)
Jr. BM gift (Source)
Thank You Cards (Source)
Guest Book Tree (Source)
Custom Cake Topper (Source)
Cupcake toppers (Source)
Cupcake wrappers (Source)
Custom frame for MOH (Source)
Wedding dress hanger (Source)
Cuff links (Source)
Cake server and toasting glasses set (Source)
Bridal Comb (Source)
Cake topper (Source)
Garter (Source)
Guest book and pen (Source)
Flower girl baskets and ring pillow (Source)
Headbands for the flower girls (Source)
Tags (Source)
Custom parents' boutonnieres (Source)
Card box (Source)
Cake Topper (Source)
Original WB post: http://apps.facebook.com/wedsnap_wedding/forums/topic/74094/whos-bought-items-off-of-etsy/
Chime In: Have you bought anything on Etsy? If so what?
10/18/10
Wearing Black on Your Wedding Day
Your Grandma or even your Mother might not approve, but no-a-days wearing black on your wedding day is a stylish option. Brides today want to be unique! Besides, why should the groom be the only one who gets to wear black?!
There are several girls on WB are wearing wedding dresses with black in them. They are so gorgeous and have a certain elegance about them. Don't take my word for it! Check it out:
There are several girls on WB are wearing wedding dresses with black in them. They are so gorgeous and have a certain elegance about them. Don't take my word for it! Check it out:
Chime In: What do you think about a bride wearing black on her wedding day? Would you were black on your wedding day? Have/are you going to? Do you know anyone who has?
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